Silently Suffering: Postpartum Depression in New Dads

It’s the postpartum struggle almost no one talks about. 

Like new moms, new dads can also suffer the devastating effects of depression in the periods before, during and after pregnancy. But since men don’t endure the hormonal fluctuations associated with childbirth, a common misconception is they must be exempt from struggles like postpartum depression (PPD). 

This couldn’t be further from the truth. 

A 2015 Canadian study revealedthat roughly 13% of first-time fathers experienced “elevated depressive symptoms” during the latter stages of their partner’s pregnancy. Even starker is the fact that an overwhelming majority (80%)of men refuse to seek medical care until convinced by their spouse, likely due do the ongoing stigma and misinformation surrounding male PPD. 

SYMPTOMS & FACTORS

Similar to new moms, symptoms of PPD in new dads can range in severity and adopt many different forms. Below are some common examples:

• Increased anger, frustration and irritability
• Lack of interest in work, hobbies or socialization
• Detachment from friends and family (including spouse and newborn)
• Spending less time at home and more time at work 
• Sudden physical changes (for example, weight loss or gain)
• Sadness and fatigue
• Thoughts of escape, including suicide 

While a personal or family history of depression can be a contributing factor in PPD among men, other considerations may also be at play, including: 

• Financial stress
• Feeling overwhelmed with responsibility
• Exhaustion 
• Absence of help or support 
• Trouble bonding with baby
• Conflict or lack of intimacy with spouse

TREATMENT

As I mentioned above, an overwhelming majority of men suffering with PPD refuse to get help until persuaded by their partner. 

Research shows, however, that speaking with a registered therapist can be very effective in treating symptoms of perinatal depression in men. In addition, online support groups are available for those wishing to share their experiences anonymously. Medication may also be prescribed in the most extreme PPD cases.

The important thing to remember is that male PPD is nothing to be ashamed of. It can be overcome and support is always available.