Feeling Alone this Holiday? 4 Tips to Combat a Blue Christmas
It seems counterintuitive that a city as massive as Toronto could ever feel lonely, but it definitely can — especially around the holidays when it seems like everyone else’s social calendar fills to the brim with friendly gatherings and family functions.
Social media can often compound these feelings with 24/7 timelines of winter vacations, kids opening presents and happy couples in their Pinterest-worthy pajamas.
If you find yourself far from loved ones, dealing with a break-up or simply struggling with loneliness during these winter months, take comfort in knowing you’re not alone. In fact, the phenomenon of seasonal sadness has become so prevalent that it’s spawned a new term: the holiday blues.
Strategies to Cope With a Blue Christmas
Understanding that feelings of isolation are common during these end-of-year months, here are some strategies that may help you cope:
1. Get Busy
The holidays arrive at the same time each year so you have plenty of time to formulate a game-plan that will make you feel more plugged-in and less on your own. For example:
Start Volunteering: Giving of yourself during the holidays could be the start of a beautiful new tradition in your life. There are plenty of programs around the city that could benefit from your time; you won’t regret it!
Connect with Friends: Celebrating the holidays with friends is becoming an increasingly popular trend as more and more people move away from home and establish their life somewhere new. It’s so common, in fact, that “Friendsgiving” became a trending topic on social media this year. Reach out to your buddies ahead of the holidays and make some festive plans!
Connect Online: The web can be a wonderful place to discover like-minded people in your community, especially in a bustling and multi-faceted city like Toronto. Sites like meetup.com are a great place to start.
2. Focus on the Positive:
Rather than dwell on what’s missing right now, try and focus on the many positives in your life and the world around you. You can jot entries in a diary or say them out loud; either way, you will gradually notice how much there is to be thankful for.
3. Embrace Solitude
Sure, the holidays may scream ‘togetherness’ but on the flip-side, everything non-holiday generally slows down and provides an opportunity for some rare ‘me time.’ Maybe you’ve shelved an old hobby or have neglected treating yourself to a day at the spa. Guess what? Now’s the ideal time to buck the crowds and focus on you!
4. Be Kind to Yourself
Even with the above strategies, being alone on the holidays can be tough. It’s important to acknowledge your feelings as valid and normal and recognize that this too shall pass.
Having to cope alone during the holidays can be challenging. If you are experiencing a blue Christmas, such as feeling isolated or disconnected during this time of year, consider the above suggestions and speak to a therapist for more advice or support.
Wishing you a peaceful and fulfilling holiday season.
